Oh what we could be if we stopped carrying the remains of who we were. ~ T.K. Gregson
My husband, Jim, and I talk about this quite a bit, and it came up again after listening to one of our favorite podcasters admit that he had relapsed not long ago. This particular podcaster is a recovering addict, and talks about addiction a lot on his show.
I applaud his transparency, honesty and awareness. I think it can be dicey, however, to talk about and focus on the past so much — to carry around the remains of who we were and moreover, show them to people on a regular basis!
Last year, my husband, Jim, loved me enough to point out that whenever I talked about my past, I invariably brought up my parents’ divorce – like it somehow defined me. He gently helped me release that part of my story and since then I’ve more fully stepped into who I am in this current moment.
And that feels pretty darn good. I like who I am now as opposed to who I was back then, which was to say “child of divorced parents.” (Because the stories I had in my head about what that meant did not help propel me forward; instead they acted like an anchor.)
I think we set ourselves free when we stop referring to how it’s been, and welcome how good it is and how great it can be.
We’re all capable of growing beyond who we were. We just have to release those old stories that no longer serve us, and which don’t represent where we’d like to be in life.
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